Baby #2 Update: Halfway There

As of tomorrow, I am officially halfway through this pregnancy with baby #2. I’ll be honest, it’s been a rough one this time around and, lately, it’s taken all I have to stay positive and grateful that we’ve made it this far. As many of you know, we suffered a miscarriage before Chase and were positive we were miscarrying again with this baby early on.

I bled off and on through the first trimester and some of the second until, finally, blessedly, it stopped one day. Then came a period of relative calm, though that waiting for the other shoe to drop mentality was always there, never far from the forefront of my mind.

Last week, we went to the anatomy scan and found out we were having another little boy. We’re both over the moon about the news, despite the fact that I was convinced this one was a girl (my mother’s intuition must’ve been misfiring.) I’ve always dreamt of being a mom to all boys and I was ecstatic to hear that dream was coming true, so far.

Then, last Friday, I got a call from our doctor at 5:00 PM. Already in weekend mode, I wasn’t expecting bad news; Adam was on his way home from work and we were looking forward to a weekend of zero obligations. “Everything looks great,” the doctor said, but I heard the unmistakable pause in her voice. “The only thing is, we found two cysts near the baby’s brain that could be a marker for a chromosomal abnormality. I’m not concerned, but we’ll need to do a special ultrasound to see what’s going on.”

I sort of nodded mutely, not registering that she couldn’t hear my body language through the phone. “Uh, OK, thanks,” I said, once I was able to find my voice. I could tell she was eager to get off the phone with me and I was too blindsided to think of the right questions to ask.

I spent many long days this week fighting tooth and nail to get an appointment with the specialist–arguing with the receptionist at the doctor’s office, trying to get someone to just pick up the damn phone and make me the appointment we needed. By nature, I’m not a big worrier (I’ve called Chase’s pediatrician exactly once since he was born 13 months ago) and I tend not to get too caught up in things I can’t change. But waiting for someone else to do something so simple that alters my life so drastically? That, I have little patience for.

It’s been a long week of dealing with insensitive nurses who won’t return my phone calls, waiting on hold with the insurance company, worrying about our baby and then kicking myself for not having enough faith to let it all play out the way it will anyway.

I’m scared. Maybe even terrified. I know this happens to other women all the time in the course of their pregnancies and everything turns out 100% fine. Their stories have brought me immense comfort as I try to wait patiently. But, I can’t help but worry and wonder as I wait for that all-clear of my own.

Our appointment is scheduled for next week and I hope we will leave it with good news to share. For now though, if you’re the praying type, I’d love it if you shot one up to the Big Guy Upstairs for us. We would appreciate it so much.


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Melissa Mowry is a stay at home mom to 3 year old Chase and the slightly younger guy, Sam. She is the main voice behind One Mother to Another, which she started in July 2014 as a way to connect with other moms who felt just as lonely as she did some days. She is married to her high school sweetheart, Adam, and they live in their home state of Rhode Island. Melissa's work has been featured on the Huffington Post, Scary Mommy, Mamalode, Coffee + Crumbs and Mamapedia, among others. Her book, One Mother to Another: This Is Just Between Us is for sale on Amazon.
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13 Responses to Baby #2 Update: Halfway There

  1. Jill Devine March 20, 2015 at 8:26 pm #

    Hugs hugs hugs!

    • One Mother to Another March 27, 2015 at 9:29 pm #

      Thank you so much Jill! I don’t know if you saw but everything turned out to be totally fine 🙂

  2. hormonalhomemaker March 20, 2015 at 9:06 pm #

    I am the praying kind, and you just got promoted to the top of my prayer list!

    • One Mother to Another March 27, 2015 at 9:30 pm #

      Thank you SO much. I can’t tell you how much we appreciate the prayers. I don’t know if you saw my latest post, but everything turned out to be fine. God is good!!

  3. Faint Not Mom March 20, 2015 at 9:12 pm #

    Praying for you Melissa! It is not an easy thing living in the unknown and I know these next few days will be hard. You are not alone!

  4. ghoffer March 20, 2015 at 10:10 pm #

    Sending good vibes your way for a safe and healthy pregnancy and delivery.

    • One Mother to Another March 27, 2015 at 9:33 pm #

      Thank you so much for sending your good vibes. I’m so happy to say that everything turned out to be 100% fine with our little guy 🙂

  5. Joanna March 21, 2015 at 9:53 am #

    I will be praying! I’m currently 25 weeks with twins, and at our anatomy scan they found what they thought could be a chromosomal abnormality next to one of the babies’ hearts. It’s scary and frustrating, especially trying to deal with all of the ultrasound techs that don’t say anything, or on office that won’t put your babies needs at the top of their priorities when something like this happens. I’ll be praying for strength and peace for you as well as healing for your sweet boy!

    • One Mother to Another March 27, 2015 at 9:32 pm #

      Thank you so much Joanna. I really appreciate your prayers and you sharing your story with me. I’m so glad your little ones are both doing well and I’m happy to say our little guy is 100% fine. I will pray for a smooth, uneventful rest of your pregnancy!

  6. Ali A March 21, 2015 at 12:20 pm #

    Thinking of you & sending good, positive thoughts your way!

    • One Mother to Another March 27, 2015 at 9:31 pm #

      Thank you so much Ali 🙂 Everything turned out to be 100% fine, thank God. Now I can breathe finally.


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