Since we’re at the start of a brand-new year, I wanted to take a minute to check in with all of you about the direction of One Mother to Another. If you’ve been here awhile, you may have noticed that the tone and content of OMTA has changed slightly over the last year as I found my voice and refined my mission for this community. 2016 was a huge year of growth for me personally and, since I share my heart openly and honestly with you here, that growth couldn’t help but bleed over to this blog and my page.
In 2016, I learned so much about myself, my relationships, my faith, my priorities, my self-worth, my voice, my abilities, my weaknesses, what I value most and what isn’t worth my energy. I’ve (truly) learned to stop worrying about what other people think of me and speak my mind without fear of reproach. I’ve learned to let go of toxic relationships and improve those that were worth saving but needed an overhaul. I’ve learned to have hard conversations in the interest of cultivating honest dialogue with people I really care about. I’ve learned to unburden myself of nagging guilt and appreciate that I’m doing the best I can where my kids are concerned. More than anything, I’ve learned that God put me on this earth to be a champion of people, but mothers and women especially, and that it is, without a doubt, my calling.
All that to say, here’s what you can expect to see on OMTA this year:
- Affirmation and motivation: To be completely honest, I’ve grown tired of simply commiserating about motherhood. Sure, motherhood and life in general can be incredibly challenging and, yes, some of that is beyond our control, but a lot of it is also within our power to change. Over the last several years, I’ve worked very hard to find fulfillment and contentment in so many areas of my life; I want to share what I’ve learned with other people who are ready to work hard and see their lives change for the better. We all need a little push every now and then and I’d love to be the person who gives someone else that nudge into action.
- Uplifting messages: I don’t know about you, but my Newsfeed is chock full of negativity right now and I don’t want to play a part in contributing to that in 2017. Rather, I want to be a bright spot in your feed where we can share pictures that make us feel beautiful, things that made us smile during the week, hilarious quotes from our kids, what we did over the weekend, what fulfills us outside of being mothers. As always, I am still deeply committed to sharing the hard parts of motherhood too, just with a focus on the good at the root of it all.
- Practical tips, guidance, and advice: I have to admit that, at this moment, my life feels very manageable. If you’d told me a year ago that I’d be saying that now, I would’ve laughed out loud; my life was a chaotic mess and I was struggling to keep my head above water with a million responsibilities weighing me down. In the past year, I’ve learned a lot from other moms about working smarter, not harder and I’d love to share some of that wisdom with you, too. You’ll find me sharing more recipes I love, projects I’ve tackled that help my household run more smoothly, books I’ve read that opened my eyes to new ways of doing things, habits I’ve developed that have benefited me and my family, and much more.
- Thought-provoking articles that challenge us: I also have to admit that I’m kind of over memes. Of course, they’re funny and mindless and you can scroll through a billion in a day, but they have no long-term impact and they don’t challenge us to grow. I see so many memes directed at moms that center around coffee, yoga pants, and wine. While they’re funny and often highly relatable, they feel played out to me. Rather than sharing the same old memes, I’ll be focusing on writing/sharing articles that challenge our conventional ideas of motherhood and encourage us to think about things in a different way (maybe even wine and coffee and yoga pants.) I’m sure you’ll see a meme from me on occasion but, overall, I’m going to be cutting down on the ones I share in a big way.
That said, here’s what OMTA will always be:
When you get down to it, nothing is changing in a drastic way. OMTA will always embody these values and I’ll still be here every day trying to make you laugh or cry or think or grow. I guess my point in writing this is to say that I finally have a few things figured out and I want to share those with you. I still have a lot of work to do on myself and will forever be a work-in-progress, but I’m ready to share the things I have puzzled out in the hopes that someone else can benefit from my struggle.
If you’re not ready to be pushed and stretched in this new year, that’s OK. Flowers bloom at different times and no one can force them to bloom before they’re ready. But if you’re staring down this coming year knowing you’ve got some changes to make, I’d love for you to stick around and see what we can accomplish together in 2017.